How to Write A Love Letter
Expressing our feelings of love and affection through words can be really challenging, especially if you grew up in a household where love was expressed in other ways (actions, service, etc.) However, as we get older we might find ourselves in friendships and relationships with people who crave words of affirmation and desire. We need to find a way to give it to them and feel comfortable too. Bonus: expressing love to other people can help us learn to better express love to ourselves.
Aspects of a Good Love Letter
The Address
Appreciation
A Memory
An Intention
The Closing
The Address
Who are you writing to?
Do you use a special nickname or term of endearment?
Examples:
Dear mama,
To my honey,
My Sweetheart,
Express Appreciation
What specific traits do they have that you love?
What specific things to they do for you or with you that is mores special than anyone else?
Why are they so important to you?
Why are you grateful just to know them?
Example:
I have never known true joy and laughter until I experienced making up goofy little songs with you while we do dishes or go grocery shopping It makes even the most mudane tasks enjoyable. I love that you brought that into my life.
Detail Out a Memory
When you think of this person what one of the best memories that comes to mind?
What moment demonstrates why your relationship is so special?
Use your 5 senses to capture the moment
Example:
My favorite memory of us is sitting on the beach in Hawaii together for New Year’s Eve, remember? We packed up poke from Foodland and taro chips. We dug our toes into the sand and waiting for fireworks. I don’t even remember what we talked about, I just remember I felt so content and comfortable with you. I knew then and there, I would always remember us like that.
Set An Intention
What goals do you have for this relationship?
What hopes do you have for the future?
What actions will you take to better this relationship?
Example:
I see this relationship lasting a long time, even forever. I will continue to prioritize quality time together so that we can make new memories. I promise to work on being present even in the small day-to-day moments, especially then. I will be a partner and friend who is dependable and carries equal responsibility. I will continue to be a person you can come to for the hard things in life.
The Closing
What nickname does this person call you?
What is a word or statement that wraps up your letter?
Example:
Love, Me
All my love, Bean
Sincerely yours, Honey
“Love is the bridge between you and everything.”